I’ve studied the Law of Attraction for a very long time, since about the time The Secret was first released. One thing that I have struggled with the most is the whole concept of accept whatever comes and do not worry over what does not.
For those of you not familiar with the law of attraction or the Secret movie – basically ‘thoughts are things’. If you think you are going to be late for work you are, if you say you can’t, you can’t- if you say you can, you can. If you claim that you are sick, happy, confident, tired, wealthy, poor, a victim – then you ARE. Furthermore – what you spend your time and energy thinking about comes to pass. So if you are constantly worried about car crashes, diseases or obsessed with thinking about your debt – then you will get more car crashes, diseases and debt.
I believe fully in the law of attraction, I believed in it before I had that name for it. The tricky part to me, is that when you want something and are doing what you can to manifest that thing – that you have to also let go of it. How does one set a goal and not worry about actually achieving the goal? It goes against most of the lessons I’ve learned in goal planning and this dissonance confounded me for years.
I think I finally understand, but my understanding comes from studying meditation – not from studying the law of attraction. Life, is about the journey – PERIOD. Simply put, you may start out wanting to build roller coasters, but find yourself a jet engineer instead. Is that a failure? Not necessarily.
Joe Vitale is the one who taught me over and over again, to always put ‘this or something better’ at the end of my goals and affirmations, because sometimes the really awesome stuff that comes into our lives is beyond our imagination at the time when we are setting these goals up. He covers the whole process of attracting what you want through the law of attraction in depth in his best seller The Attractor Factor which you can purchase here. He also makes it very clear that you need to be unattached to the results. Set the goal, then let it go.
So when I set out to make a million, what is my real goal? My goal is not to worry about money, to be able to take vacations and to be able to afford the best medical care for myself and my family should that need ever arise. I have a goal to one day own a home, preferably some land and a home that we have built to suit our unique set of parameters. I also dream that someday, I will start a not-for-profit organization to help small business owners get into their first homes. My goals also include having all of my businesses be profitable – not operating on a loss.
It wasn’t until I forced myself to sit down and do the numbers that I was able to really formulate what my financial goals were. For example – I knew that I was making monthly payments on all of my debts, but until I sat down, totaled them up and made a specific goal, I didn’t know what it was going to take to truly be in the green.
I realized that saying I wanted to be debt free wasn’t a good goal – after all, what does your subconscious or the manifesting universe hear when you say debt free– debt. So I finally realized what I wanted – it wasn’t just to be financially independent, that is too vague. I want to have my businesses operating in the green. For them to all truly to be showing profits and today I sat down and discovered what numbers it would take to make that a reality.
My new specific affirmations or goals, I am proudly seeing and showing all of my companies in the green in only 6 months, or something even better! I am ecstatic earning over $$$ a month or something even better. I am elated reaching my goal of $$$ Gross and $$$ AGI for 2015 or something even better.
According to Busting Loose from the Money Game by Robert Schienfeldd (which you can purchase here) I am just playing the numbers game. Scheinfeld attests that there isn’t really any money coming in and out of our accounts and that we can all at any time choose to believe that the money we need will always be there and so long as we do believe – so shall it be. The author claims that he finally gets to a point where he no longer checks his bank accounts, he simply knows that there is always more than enough money in there. This was a really hard one for me to swallow. I guess the only reason for Bill Gates or Donald Trump to check their checking account is either for the fun of it or fraud prevention, but according to this book we should all be able to do it – no matter the size of our perceived net worth, since we come from a state of abundance and therefore are all infinitely abundant whether we realize it or not.
I’ve always believed that yes, the universe takes care of you as long as you believe it will and most of the time, after 15 years in a somewhat seasonal business, I have no problem knowing that even when I start out the month with no money on the calendar that somehow I will manage to get all of my bills or as they say in Busting Loose ‘requests for appreciation’ paid.
In the last 6 months, my faith in the universe has been thwarted by my own lack of faith in my worthiness. Let me explain – I was incredibly frustrated with myself. Over and over again I would sleep in with my hubby and baby, over and over again I would not get tasks accomplished by the dates I had originally set as target goals, therefore I became more and more convinced that the universe wasn’t going to be sending me that money I needed to adequately take care of my family because I was not putting forth the effort I needed to in order to make that happen.
Truth be told, whether I came into the office or not, if my faith had not wavered, neither would have my income. Instead, my energetic level started to be less and less due to the lack of worthiness I felt and since that is where my focus went, being upset with myself for inaction, that is what I saw more and more of.
Lesson finally learned – In listening to Inspired Marketing (which you can purchase here), Cindy Cashman talks about only doing that which you enjoy doing – for if you do not enjoy it then you are not following your inspiration. I first heard of Cindy Cashman when I got my first and maybe favorite and most revisited success book of all time, Life’s Missing Instruction Manual. I really loved what she had to say – she posited that we all know the answers to our questions – if we will only keep asking questions. I later learned that simply adding the phrase I choose to know at the end of the question makes a huge difference in getting the answers out.
A big part of my joy these days is spending time with my hubby and baby boy. Even though I am on this journey to a million – I have made a commitment to myself to enjoy the journey, after all once I get there and the dream is accomplished, I will simply set another goal. So it is best to enjoy the journey.
If I don’t make it to the office until 1, I don’t make it until 1. The universe will still take care of me, I will still go above and beyond for my clients and as long as I am in good spirits and making progress each day towards my goals, being unattached to what actually manifests I will reach my greatest yet to be.
Links to books/products listed in this post:
- The Secret
- The Attractor Factor
- Busting Loose from the Money Game
- Inspired Marketing
- Life’s Missing Instruction Manual